Success is relative…

Success is relative…

Success is relative.

I said it about 50 times in my “GCSE Results Day Video” and I’m going to say it again now, but I feel as though my video was done pretty quickly and I didn’t get chance to say everything I was feeling. I’ve had enough time to reflect on the situation now and I feel like this is the end of a very long chapter, so it’s only right to end it properly.

Success is different depending on every person, a lot of people, myself included, find this difficult to accept. With schools often making it boarder-line competitive, striving for “the best” is often taken one step too far. It’s great to want to do well, but comparing your results to others is always going to make you upset, because there’s always going to be somebody that you think has done better, no matter what the situation is. As I said in my video, some people are naturally academic, but if you’re not one of these people, you shouldn’t feel that you have to compare yourself to them, because you might have worked just as hard. I’m so proud of where I ended up (it took me a while to realise it) I came out of my mocks with an E in chemistry (I keep using this example but it proves the point) and that to me was a huge wake up call that it was time to put the effort in. I laughed it off at the time, but I knew there and then that I was not going to be okay if that was the result I saw in August, so I threw everything I had into it and was not willing to let my science teachers tell me I couldn’t do it. I’ve never been that person and I’m hoping I never will be. I’m sure a lot have you know this about me by now, but I’m a huge believer in ‘if you want something badly enough you can make it happen.’  All I wanted was to get myself from an E in chemistry to a B. I got that B.

For most 16 year olds that received their results on Thursday this is the hardest and biggest educational achievement we’ve all been through. I’m sure we’ve all heard those people who tell us repetitively that “A levels are so much harder” and I don’t doubt that for a minute, I am fully aware that it’s going to be difficult, but at this point in my life GCSE’s are the hardest ‘education’ I’ve ever been through, so don’t let anybody make you feel less worthy because they really are a challenge!

Whether you opened you results on Thursday morning to see A’s and A*s or not, there are always options outside of education. All you have to do is look at some of the most successful people in life to realise that, exam results on a piece of paper do not define who you are, it sounds cliché but it’s true.

My French teacher stood and gave me a pep talk when I was feeling all sorry for myself on results day morning and she really opened my eyes to the fact that I haven’t just walked out of High School with 11 GCSE’s, I’ve taken so much more from it then that. I was an 11 year old girl when I started there, and I really cannot say it’s been easy, because it really hasn’t, and there were times (years) that I absolutely hated school and the thought of going used to make me feel ill, but, like most good things I started to enjoy it just as I had to leave. Now, we’re 5 years on (I have no idea how that happened what the hell, it still feels like 2011 to me) and I did come out with the results I wanted, but I also worked really, really hard to get there and in a weird way it feels kind of nice now, looking back at all the coffee fuelled late nights and bleary-eyed early mornings, the frantic panic emails sent to my English teacher every other day (sorry again Miss Butlin for that) and the many, MANY, tears I shed over maths on a regular basis, because I know I can look at that chapter of my life now and think that I came out of it okay, and I’ve had an amazing summer with the results I wanted to end it, and no, maybe they’re not 11 A*s, but that’s just fine by me, because I know I did the best I could, and I know that I had an AMAZING group of teachers working with me every step of the way (shoutout to those absolute babes who I 100% would not have been able to do it without)

I think the point of this is just to conclude my GCSE journey, in the hope that maybe one day when I’m sitting my A levels, and I’m on my 4th Caramel Latte of the day, and I feel like I can’t do it (future Molly, I know you’re reading this, you’re probably sat in your bed on the verge of tears, I know you) but this just proves you really can. I’ve made this sound elaborate and unnecessarily fairytale-esque, when in reality I just sat 23 exams like the whole nation of 16 year olds. I always did like to glorify things. I just wanted to write this to bring it all to a close, because now we’re about to start a new chapter, one even more challenging than the last. Thank you so much for your kind words over on my channel, and your continued support throughout exam season as well. If you got your GCSE results on Thursday, I hope you got what you wanted, and I’m so proud of us all for making it out alive! If you didn’t get what you were hoping for, as I’ve said, there’s so much more to life and there are always options!

Finally, if you’re about to embark on this journey, (and get ready because it’s gonna be a long one, I suggest you take up drinking coffee) whether you’re starting Year 10 or Year 11, go into it and give it everything you have, because you only want to be doing this once, so you might as well go for it and give it your all, because trust me, that feeling on results day will always be worth it. It’ll be that that you remember in years to come, not the late nights and the stress and the times you felt like giving up.

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I feel like this is the end of a very long, very tiring day, but in reality this is only really the start, but so far it really has been a bumpy journey, but I’m proud of that, god knows, it’d have been boring otherwise.

If you’re going to take one thing away from this post, please let it be that you should never let anybody tell you that you can’t do something. You can. So go give it everything you’ve got, it’ll be worth it! Good Luck if you’re about to start Year 11.

I’ll hopefully see you all over on my channel really soon:)

 

Molly xoxo

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  1. August 27, 2016 / 10:06 am

    THIS IS SO TRUE MOLLY! I absolutely love this as although school’s main purpose is for us to learn, we do learn a lot more than just subjects. We learn how to make life long friends, how to deal with horrible people, how to motivate ourselves when its the last thing we want to do and also how to grow into a better person. You did amazing with your GCSEs Molly- good luck with your A levels and just keep this same mentality throughout them! -Tash xx

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    • August 27, 2016 / 3:31 pm

      This is so well put and is all so true, thank you!:)x

  2. August 27, 2016 / 10:09 am

    I loved this so much Molly, I am one of those who instantly compared and after I felt so bad. My teachers and parents said that I had done so well but I just didn’t feel like I did! I’ve come to terms with them now but I really love how you write from the heart xx

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    • August 27, 2016 / 3:31 pm

      Thank you! i felt exactly the same but am happy now!:)

  3. Jennifer Williams
    August 27, 2016 / 10:10 am

    the fact that i have just cried at this because i went through the same thing. In the last set of mocks before the real exams, I got a G in history. That’s when i really started to put in the effort and email my teacher frequently, asking for extra questions and revision sheets. I worked so hard because people started to believe that I couldn’t do it. I proved them wrong. I got a B!

    P.S Molly, if you want to make me cry even more, follow me on twitter 🙂 @jenleigh99

    • August 27, 2016 / 3:30 pm

      Aw Congratulations!! That’s amazing!! The hard work was worth it then 🙂 x

      ps, check twitter;)

  4. August 27, 2016 / 11:39 am

    Molly you are an inspiration to me! I am going into year 10 and I have picked some of the hardest GCSE my school does, history,geography, psychology and business and I have already been told that I shouldn’t pick these as its going to be too much! But I am going to work for it and as you said no one should change your mind,so I am sticking to these subjects.

    Amy xx
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    • August 27, 2016 / 12:02 pm

      If you’re willing to put the effort in theres no reason at all why you can’t come out with the grades you want!! <3 x

  5. August 27, 2016 / 4:25 pm

    You put it very well, thank you for sharing this Molly.

  6. August 30, 2016 / 11:14 pm

    I’m about to start year 11, now I know I need to kick myself up the butt, but reading this moll, made me believe that I can, and I know that when I’m feeling low, I can turn to this or your videos for help! Thank you, you’re a true inspiration and I wish you the best with college!xx

  7. November 2, 2016 / 8:51 pm

    Thank you so much for posting this, because it’s just a bundle of truth:)
    I’m in year 11 rn and I really hope to achieve my aims (I’m not going to say what, because every person has individual aims so:) )
    You did so, so well Molly, you’ve achieved so much and it’s amazing:)
    P.S you’ve inspired me to re-start my blog (I’m literally doing that rn) and also, I don’t know if you’ll see this, but I am considering English literature at A-level- are you enjoying it? I absolutely love English and writing (which is partly my inspiration for my blog) and hope to do something with it in my future:)
    Have an amazing day full of cupcakes and rainbows and I’m jealous of your squad trip to Paris,
    xoxoxoxox Becky

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